Does Your Divorce Lawyer Have Your Best Interest in Mind or is it Time for a New Divorce Lawyer?
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| Family law lawyers' greed will drag out a divorce until they get everything from you.| Source: Copyright © 02/13/2012. |
Has your divorce attorney told you that you are cherry picking after bringing up important matters such as parental alienation. Worse yet, has your divorce lawyer told you to “Let me handle it”? If this is the case you may want to look into getting a new divorce attorney, or even better, educate yourself about your state’s family law then deal with your family legal matters Pro-Se. What makes me tell you that you should start educating yourself on your state’s family law and possibly look at retaining a new divorce attorney or going pro-se?
Don't Let The Divorce Lawyers' and Family Courts' Best Interest Be What's Really In Mind!
Let me begin with the fact that although your divorce lawyer may say he/she has your best interest in mind, it is highly unlikely that is true. The only person that will have your best interest (and your children’s best interest, if you have them) in mind, is yourself. The only best interest a divorce attorney has in mind is his/her own best interest… How many times he/she can ignore the real issues to drag your divorce, child support, or child custody case as long as possible… How much money he/she can milk off of you for the retaining fee, hourly work, and court hearings… I’m sure you get the idea now.
Obviously I’m not a divorce lawyer, as I probably would not be telling you that a divorce lawyer will not have your best interest in mind if I were. I am a divorcee, who has experienced an awful lot (over 10 years worth) of how the family court system really works.
When you retained your divorce attorney, or if you are looking to retain a divorce lawyer, and the one you are looking to retain does not inform you of your rights given by the family law in your state as the very first thing they do for you, then they do not have your best interest in mind, and I suggest you look at a different divorce attorney to retain. It is for that reason that my first advice to you is to start educating yourself on your state’s family law statutes.
Even if you do want to continue your family court battles with a divorce lawyer by your side, knowing your state’s family law can help you make sure that your divorce attorney will keep the best interest of you (and your children) as top priority.
How Do You Educate Yourself on Your State's Family Laws?
Well the first thing you can do to educate yourself on your state's family law is to do a search on the Internet. Just Google your state's family law statutes, if the search engine results show a link to a .org or .gov then you are in business.
However, I should warn you that some states do not have their family laws accessible on the Internet. If that is the case then you are going to need to get to your local circuit court or district court (depending on what your state calls it) and go to the Pro Se (or Pro Per, again the name depends on the state) office.
Now that most, if not all, states have a website for the courts in the state, you can try going to the courthouse website to see if there is a link to pro se information to try to save you some time and gas money. To find your states' family court through a Google search on your state's courts, or more specifically, your state name + district court, circuit court, family court or magistrate court. Again look for the .gov or .org in the website address.
The Pro-Se office at your local district court or circuit court can provide you with blank divorce forms and other family court forms to file in the family court, as well as some free legal advice to a certain extent, so even if you were able to find your state’s family laws on the Internet you are still going to want to check out your local district court or circuit court Pro Se division.
You can pick up the blank divorce forms and other family court forms for the Pro-Se office during their normal hours of operation, however, you may have to schedule an appointment with your Pro Per office in order to talk to an attorney to get (to a certain extent) that free legal advice.
As I do not want any misunderstandings I want to make sure that you know that the free legal advice given by the Pro-Se office is not legal aid, and the lawyer who provides the free legal advice to you will not accompany you to your court hearings. If you are looking for a lawyer to accompany you to your court hearings then you are going to want to look for legal aid in your state. The downside to legal aid is that unfortunately you will have to qualify to receive legal aid where an attorney will accompany you to the court hearings and so forth. Whereas you do not have to qualify for the free legal advice given by the attorney at the pro-se office.
Need a New Judge to Preside Over Your Family Law Case?
I also advise that you do some research on the judge presiding over your case to see if there is any way you can get a dismissal of the judge. Not all judges are as much for justice as they say they are when they are running for election. I had such a dirty judge, that she not only charged a man who had a vasectomy long before said child was conceived that child support was awarded on, but put many children (including mine) through parental alienation so she could write a report on parental alienation.
Her conclusion: parental alienation is a really damaging form of abuse that affects the development of children in many negative ways.
I would provide a link to the report, but it was removed from the internet after the judge was made to resign over a decade later when she got arrested for being plastered while driving.
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| Family court corruption is at it's finest when NM Judge Deborah Walker is presiding.| Source Copyright © 02/13/2012 |
I was able to have her dismissed after looking over everything submitted to the courts by getting a whole copy of my court record when I took my case on Pro-Se. Getting a copy of everything submitted to the court will cost by the page.
I discovered that my ex had tried to communicate with the judge without a court hearing, and without any notice to me.
I also learned that, technically, her presiding over my case was a conflict of interest as she had been friends with the ex in-laws before and during the marriage.
Unfortunately I found out about it after all the damage to my children had happened.
With that said, it is very unlikely any divorce lawyer will have your best interest in mind, and just as unlikely that a judge will as well. If you want the best interest of you and your children to be top priority, you now know where to start searching for information on your state's family law as well as where you can get free legal advice, divorce forms, and other family court orders and motions. You should get started learning as much as you can about family law so that you can ensure that the best interest of you (and your children) is top priority at that next court hearing. Best wishes to you to hopefully help you on this rough journey of divorce court. Much Love!
Author's note: This article was originally published on HubPages Copyright © 02/13/2012. However, the account got flagged by the ex and a multitude of the ex's friends. All the articles were removed to prevent further problems from the ex, with a plan to relocate the articles here.
I recently found this on a drive from an old desktop system I was using back then. After proofreading, updating, and proofreading again, I figured it's very useful information that will hopefully help prevent the allowance of parental alienation through greedy divorce attorneys and corrupt court systems. Of course that is as long as we haven't turned into a neo-social-commie nation.